Change is on the horizon...

Change is inevitable, Avoiding change is impossible, Change is constant, Change is good.

Undersatnding these four short points stated above could possibly be the most important thing anyone can ever do in their life. I mean think about it, how often in our lives have we stressed or been upset all because of change? It could be as simple as a change in the weather, or something more personal like a change in relationship status or a change in employment. All these things and many others stress us out, but if we can only find the time and strength to sit back and remember the 4 points at the start of this post we may be able to begin to put things into perspective. I myself am about to go through a big change and I am not fully prepared for it but I do understand how it relates to the four points I have previously mentioned. My marriage is coming to an end, this is something I never thought could possibly happen, the reason I thought this was because when I said "till death do us part" I meant it. But times they are a changing, there is that word again........change. In regards to relationships of course change is inevitable, impossible to avoid, constant and good. Relationships change everyday and in many ways, for example a realtionship with a friend or loved one is constantly evolving into something more involved as you begin to learn more and more about the individual or as your lives begin to take you down different paths. I have many friends that I used to be really close with and actually still consider these people to be friends but unfortunately our lives have gone down different paths and we have not kept in contact or it has been sporadic at best. In all relationships, especially those with a significant other change is impossible to avoid. A love relationship is probably the most volitile in regards to change, by this I mean it clearly experiences the most change. For example when a relationship begins there is a plethora of feelings generated both physically and mentally and in most cases these feelings are what act as the foundation for the rest of the relationship. As relationships meet milestones they change, it could be making the relationship officially exclusive, or moving in together, getting engaged/married or having children. All of these things are very significant in there own right and all may sound positive but that is not always the case. In my situation all the things I mentioned were positive and enjoyable but were maybe not the right decision based on my partners train of thought at the time. I personally do not regret anything that has happened because through this relationship I have gained the biggest and best change to my live............my son. My son is the single biggest change that my life has ever experienced and I would not change it for the world. It seems I would sacrfice anything in my life for my son even down to my own happiness. I am only know beginning to realize that I can still have everything that my son brings to my life and still offer him everything I bring to his life and be happy at the sametime. I have always feared that my failed marriage would have detrimental affects on my life in general, but in all actuality it may be quite the opposite, it may turn out to be the most liberating experience of my life. We all know that change is constant so attempting to postpone it or run from it is a frugal exercise at best. My last point for my first blog entry is that change is good. In fact just by writing this blog I feel I have begun to change, it is actually quite liberating to be able to write down your thoughts without fear of retaliation, rejection, or even caring if they ever get read by anyone else. Within the next few months I will be embarking on a new chapter of my life that once again was brought upon because of change. The times ahead are going to be exciting, frightening, interesting, memorable and forgettable.........wish me luck!!!